The gift of engaged presence
Our greatest longing is to be seen, felt, and loved by another. To deeply connect. To have our whole self met -- body to body, heart to...
4 Steps to Get off the Mental Hamster Wheel
Is your mind stuck running on an inner hamster wheel that you can’t get off of? Perhaps you wake up at night obsessing: “am I in the...
We are the guest house
I first heard Rumi's poem, "The Guest House," on retreat over fifteen years ago. It's one of my favorite teachings on skillful relating...
Being your body
I got really annoyed when my therapist said, “you don’t live in your body.” “What do you mean?” I quipped, “I rock climb, do yoga,...
Letting Go
As the days get shorter and the shadows get longer, I’m faced once again with the truth that all seasons pass. Whether it’s the movement...
The unbidden visitor
The unbidden visitor may come anytime, but late night after tasks are done and the house is quiet seems to be her favorite. Whether due...
Pay attention as if your life depends on it (because it does)
Every moment of every day we’re confronted with an infinite array of stimuli to pay attention to — sights, sounds, objects, people, the...
Loosening the grip of fear
Fear is often experienced as a formidable foe. In Buddhist psychology, there's an understanding that much of our orientation toward life...
Gift of a sacred pause
One of the kindest gifts we can offer ourselves throughout the day is the gift of a sacred a pause. The invitation is to interrupt our...
Giving and Getting
Ask for what you want. That’s the mantra of many self-help books and mainstream American culture. Get clear on what you want, what you...